There are a lot of resources available if you or someone you love is in need. You may be worried about your relationship being less recreational than it once was and need someone to talk through that alongside you. I ended up in rehab because I had no idea how to go about changing my relationship with drugs and alcohol. Rehab is only one of many options and not all treatment facilities are created equal. There are also outpatient treatment programs for recovery. Outpatient is Ideal for some folks.

The key is to use whatever works for you to heal the feeling you are trying to bury or numb. Only you know what that is. And, it can be a combination of feelings, like loneliness + boredom (that was my own, so I know that one well). Past trauma and addiction go hand in hand. Find podcasts. Find books. Find influencers online. However you choose to learn or whatever you respond to best, there's a way to help you get sober. Whatever works is the "right" way! Just know that whatever way works for you, there is support for it available.

The U.S. Department of Health & Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Admin (SAMHSA) provides a locator and helplines at

Almost everyone knows abouT AA or NA. Those were the only resources I knew existed aside from treatment facilities. It is super easy to find a meeting near you or online at either organization.
AA and NA

There are other programs out there that can help you. This is only a small few.
SMART Recovery :
Club Soda :
Refuge Recovery :
SHE Recovers Foundation :

These programs and coaching may require financial investment.
Tempest :
This Naked Mind :

Here are some sites I've browsed, bought materials from, downloaded resources and so on ,
One Year No Beer :

Facebook groups are a way to connect with like-minded folks, no matter where you fall on the sobriety spectrum. You will find thousands upon thousands of groups with tens of thousands of potential friends and resources! Several of those groups have in-person groups and you can get a ton of resources from each site/group.

"Sober curious" is a term you may want to Google. It’s not as hardcore as cold turkey and it’s a lot more open-minded. TBH--if I had known that term and found support online for that movement, I wouldn’t have gone to rehab. My healing process may not be what it is today, so no regrets! But if I had visited the sober curious movement at an earlier date, I would be spared a lot of pain and bad decisions.

Sober coaches are also a thing (who knew!). [Sober escorts are also a thing for outings, events, etc FYI!!] Type in "sober coach" in literally any search field (from Google to Insta) if you think something like that might help.

Mark Jennison : https://www.iamacomeback.comand Max Nijst:
Alice Kerby :
Michelle Smith :
Julie Bahrami :
Shelby John : https://www.shelbyjohncoaching.comare all friends who offer coaching services
Sarah Vincent runs Soul Purpose,

There are also medications that help people get sober. The US doesn’t use them the same as other countries (ex: the Sinclair Method). Any physician can prescribe them so if you see a doctor or go to a clinic, ask your physician.

Drug and alcohol counselors help with talk therapy for these specific areas. I had no idea there were people who I could see over my lunch break to help me cope with life! I had one I saw a lot during my early recovery and she was AMAZING. She particularly helped me with my communication style and healing trauma, which helped curb cravings because I was dealing with things in my life healthier

There are some great APPS for your phone that have really cool resources. They may also have a built-in community so you are never alone.
Sober Grid :
I Am Sober :

There are good books on addiction and sobriety. The term “quit lit” is often referenced and the list of reading includes the following, plus many more. Many authors have created their own movements soif something resonates with you, go find out more.

Alcoholics Anonymous: The Big Book

This Naked Mind
Control Alcohol, Find Freedom, Discover Happiness & Change Your Life & The Alcohol Experiment Books Collection Set by Annie Grace
Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol
The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober: Discovering a happy, healthy, wealthy alcohol-free life
We Are the Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life

Sober Curious:
The Blissful Sleep, Greater Focus, Limitless Presence, and Deep Connection Awaiting Us All on the Other Side of Alcohol
The Cure for Alcoholism: The Medically Proven Way to Eliminate Alcohol Addiction
Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions by Russell Brand
Drinking: A Love Story
Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction

Dr. Daniel Amen, Dr. Joe Dispenza, and Dr. Gabor Mate are worth watching as much as you can on YouTube. They address the root causes and neuroscience better than most anyone.
Here are some of their books I have read:

Change Your Brain, Change Your Life (Revised and Expanded): The Breakthrough Program for Conquering Anxiety, Depression, Obsessiveness, Lack of Focus, Anger, and Memory Problems